“Family”

Great to see new TNG reviews; as with everyone else, I have some comments:

Family: One thing I would like to note that I was almost sure you would have mentioned is the lost art of closure. Half of the fleet has just been destroyed, Picard has just been pulled from the brink of being turned into a cyborg, and the ship has been heavily damaged; If this were Voyager, the next episode would have been a comedy. I'm surprised you didn't mention how TNG not only mentions this major life-altering episode in Family, but actually spends a whole episode dealing with the consequences (the ship is in spacedock being repaired for the entire episode - can't imagine seeing that these days on a Trek series). In addition, Best of Both Worlds didn't just end with Family, but actually was brought up over and over again. Good continuity.

Brothers: The best praise I can give for Spiner's performance is that I never new until I read it that Soong was played by Spiner (granted, I was less than ten years old when the episode first aired, but I still don't look at Soong and see Spiner when I watch this episode).

The Loss: One point to add to this: Troi has commonly said she is "unable" to read certain people, such as Ferengi... does that freak her out as much as not being able to read humans in this episode? And I'm ignoring the non-continuity of Farpoint and early episode where she could turn her senses off.

Clues: In, let's say, 99% of cases, you must remember that these aliens come across all-organic crews. The crew is knocked asleep, way up a day later and assume they are in a wormhole. They presumably have no experience in what to do when they are actually discovered. They were PLANNING to kill them all, but Picard convinced them to just wipe the memories. Frankly, I think that for a race that went instantly to "let's kill them all", they agreed far too easily to this plan not only once, but a second time after it had already failed.

Devil's Due: I think it should be noted that this episode, and The Child, were Trek Phase II scrips that were reworked into TNG; The Child because of the '88 writers strike... This episode for reasons that are beyond me (though I'm guessing they must have had one). That said, Pretend this was a TNG episode with Kirk and crew, and I think you'll see that this episode fits perfectly into the TOS style. It's a testament to the evolution in story of TNG over TOS. I still think it's a bit better than you rated it though. It's lightweight, but that's not always bad. It's no "The Game", but if Reunion and Suddenly Human get higher ratings than this one? I dunno about that.

Long-time lurker, and I thought I'd post here since it's "new" (although somewhat off-topic). I'm experiencing DS9 for the first time and am really enjoying your recaps/analysis.

I'm one of those who would put "Family" in my top 10, but otherwise I usually agree with your takes. Lots of good stuff on this site.

I've seen you mention "Homicide: Life on the Streets" on occassion - any chance you'd ever recap my favorite show of all time? JK

I really liked the episode family and the mud fight scene better than jammer did. I rate it 4 stars!

Family is one of all time favorite episodes..the scene in the mud with his brother always puts a lump in my throat when I see it.

I love this episode. Subconsciously Picard knew that the only person who could give him exactly what he needed was his brother. His brother knew the same thing. Thats what this episode was about..family! You see throughout the episode Robert calculcating, figuring out just what is bugging his brother..testing him with various insults.
Then the fight occurs, and we see him broken. Robert pushes him to breaking point, gets him to push down his barriers, and when its over says, "you needed that".

The stuff with Wesley should not have happened, or been dealt with at another point, it was pointless and added nothing, I'll concede that Worfs parents were necessary, they were based around a previous plot piece and it was something light to contrast the Picard plot.

This is definitely a top TNG episode, it deserves 4 stars, its very well acted..and gives insight to two main characters..its so well written that I cried a little at the end..

"Not powerful or gripping or original or groundbreaking..."

The first two are subjective evaluations (and I would argue this episode is both)... but the last two... boy... looking at the Trek canon up to this point, "Family" is quite original and groundbreaking. No episode before this showed such direct follow-up and consequence to the immediately prior two episodes. And no episode before this focused so much on characters versus plot. In many ways, this episode sowed seeds that in time would alter the franchise--particularly giving rise to the great show that was DS9.

In other words--knocking this show for not being "original or groundbreaking" seems to me like knocking Yesterday's Enterprise for being so much like other (later) time travel episodes.

The scene near the end with Wesley watching the holo-recording of his father was sweet. Then I imagined a giant holo-fist coming out of nowhere and Wesley flying across the room on impact. Funny shit right there.

Otherwise very good episode but not great. 3 stars sound right - maybe high end of 3.

Is this the only TNG episode with no Data's appearance?

What do you mean there's no plot here in "Family"?

Picard has a choice to make: whether to stay on Earth or take up the offer in some hope of escaping his pain from the Borg experience, or return to the Enterprise despite it all. He decides to return to the Enterprise.

Worf's parents are trying to mulling over to reach out to their son who's in pain. In the end, they decide to.

Those are both *plots*. Not earth-shattering, but plots nonetheless.

I also agree with Tornado. "Family" and TNG season 4 in general is where the groundwork for Deep Space Nine truly begins.

Episodes like "The Measure of a Man" and "Family" are what elevated Star Trek: The Next Generation from being a simple SF action/adventure show.

(NOTE: Season 2's "The Icarus Factor" is constantly ignored as the first true non-SF/non-jeoprady character piece of TNG. It's usually overlooked, because it's really not that good and "Family" beats the pants off it.)

What's interesting is when I first say this as a teen-ager, this did very little for me, quite frankly I wanted to see some ship battles or something...at the time, would have rated it 1/4 stars. However, with more life experience, specifically a father of a son and daughter and having loved one die (mother), this episode resonates much more with me now than then. I would rate it 3 stars now.

I agree that ending the episode with a Jean-Luc-Robert fight in the mud is a cliche, and I can definitely see knocking the episode down because of it. However, the thing about cliches is that they usually became cliches because they work -- they have real dramatic impact, and if they are done *right* they still have that same dramatic power and truth. "The Icarus Factor" goes to the same well with Riker and his father, but it feels mostly false and hollow. What works with the Picard siblings fighting is that, more than anything else, this is about Jean-Luc recognizing and mourning a particular thing that he's lost, which is: control. The fight with Robert, in which Jean-Luc loses control and then is humiliated in the mud (and gets to humiliate his brother), is a way for him to normalize and make okay the fact that he, who has built his life from the ground up about being the best he can possibly be, is human and fallible. And that is part of the paradox of his experience with the Borg. The reason they were able to remove his humanity is THAT he was human and so "weak" and "imperfect" and unable to resist (not that any human could reasonably be expected to resist) -- and so the only way for Picard to gain some measure of self-acceptance again is to find a way to recognize that his shame and humiliation by the Borg when they removed his humanity are proof of his essential humanity. On some level he knew that Robert would give him that, because Robert is the one person in his life who saw his (Jean-Luc's) striving toward perfection as arrogance. There is something so awful about Robert here -- when he suggests that Picard could really have used the Borg humiliating him, my mouth may have dropped -- but ultimately his goading Jean-Luc into the mud is a way to reconnect Jean-Luc to their shared fallible humanity, and let him know (when they both are covered in mud) that Picard is not alone in that.

What's really interesting about Robert in this context is how anti-technology he is. Jean-Luc defends technology fairly half-heartedly here, but we can imagine him defending it with much greater force in the past. Robert respects tradition, and the tradition is almost anti-technological, unchanging, as far from transhumanism as he can get. This is what Jean-Luc reaches for after he's been made one with the Borg, which are the most nightmarish version within the TV series of transhumanism*, of what technology and progress and "the future" might be: improvement and collectivism to the point where individual values and histories are eradicated. Picard has impulses to both the future and the past -- his love of archaeology and literature and history is a real reaching for the past -- but the side of him which looks to the future is part of what has just been shattered badly by the Borg, who are the scariest, worst version of the possibility of Better Living Through Technology he can imagine. In the end, Picard doesn't want to give up life on the Enterprise, which represents (still) the future, and the hope that technology and the possibility of change and growth can make life better, because the fact that the Borg exist as the most frightening of cautionary tales for these doesn't render the impulse itself wrong. In seeing Rene's enthusiasm about starships he can recapture some of what inspired him to go out to the stars in the first place, untainted by the experiences out there. Picard's change is internal: on some level Picard *knows* with a greater certainty how fallible he is and how important it is for that fallibility to be a part of his conception of humanity, both for himself and to protect against being like the Borg, and while the change doesn't manifest obviously I do think there's a change here.

Picard has been "compromised" before BOBW. He was, um, the energy cloud in "Lonely Among Us," but really it's hard to take that episode seriously. He saw an alternate version of himself in "Time Squared" who was a babbling lunatic who may have been responsible for the Enterprise's destruction, and he immediately hated him ("I see nothing in him that I recognize!" or something to that effect) and eventually destroyed that Picard in a way that exorcised his fears about being the man who destroyed the ship. In "Sarek," he totally lost emotional control after the mindmeld with Sarek and he held Sarek's emotions -- but that was something he *chose* to do for the greater good and still kept almost entirely private. Picard has always disliked weakness in himself -- he regards his artificial heart in "Samaritan Snare" with some shame, though he eventually loosens up when he starts talking about the Nausicaan incident at length with Wesley; it seems that not wanting to let sentimentality control him is part of the reason he left Janice later-to-be-Manheim; he hates children because they make him look like an ass. I think that BOBW is the first time in the series in which Picard fully comes down to Earth, and I think that it's a major change in the series for the better. Picard is the series' primary representation of the Enlightened 24th Century Human that we should strive for, and what these episodes -- BOBW and Family -- indicate is a way to show that that man is still a person and that that is okay.

The Worf plotline works well in parallel to this -- Worf wants to hide his shame from his family, and he believes he needs to insulate them from his dishonour. His annoyance that his family hangs off him and is proud of him is I think partly because the mere *fact* that they are proud of him when they "should" reject him for his dishonour proves that they don't understand the Klingon way. More than that, Worf, more than even Picard, values his control, because it is very hard for him to keep a lid on his feelings (c.f., for example, "The Emissary" and the ice man discussions there) which, being a Klingon, are intense. His family catering to him runs the opposite of how we saw Klingons behave in "A Matter of Honour" -- Klag has no idea how to talk to his dishonoured father, for example -- and embarrasses him further and makes him feel weak and un-Klingon. But he recognizes value in their love and really does, in spite of himself, like the life that they have given him and that they represent. If Worf really wanted to be a Klingon before anything else, he could have attempted to rejoin the Klingon Empire when he came of age rather than entering Starfleet (though that possibility is cut off from him now, since the discommendation); he values being Klingon, but there is something in the human/Federation/starfleet values that he connects to even more fundamentally. His concept of honour might be Klingon, but his concept of familial love -- not just for his parents, but for the Enterprise too -- is more Federation. Their love for him gives him a bit more ability to accept himself.

The Wesley story is the slightest of the three and is mostly just a single scene, though it's also nice to hear a little about Beverly and Jack's relationship and how he proposed marriage early on. Wesley, like Picard, is reconnecting in some way with his dead father -- Picard does so through Robert, who we are told again and again is much like their father was, and Wesley does so through the holo-image. Maybe because Picard had his father to rebel against as a kid, Picard chose Starfleet in a way that goes against his father's wishes, whereas Wesley, in the absence of his father, chose to follow in his footsteps as best he could. (Jack mentions that Wesley would probably become a doctor like his mother, and it's a bit of a shame that it's only in passing that the possibility that a person will be inspired by their mother's career -- either to follow in or to rebel against -- is raised.) While "Journey's End" isn't really very good an episode, it does make some sense that Wesley's real career choice in the end isn't Starfleet, because some of his idolization of Starfleet is a way for him to feel connected to his father (and to Picard, who is a representative of his father), and at some point he needs to grow out of following in a dead man's footsteps and be his own person.

So, I think I'd go with 4 stars.

I am rewatching this series on blu-ray and I realise how great this series was and still is.
The scene in which Picard and his brother say goodbye and hugging each other is very touching and well acted.
I felt it unneccesary that Picard lost his brother and nephew in 'Generations'. It was only used for drama and the main theme of the movie. I really felt for him (I've lost my younger sister 13 years ago). Picard was a man who has been through a lot and having a close family (yet no wife and children) of his own would have been nice.

My biggest problem with this episode is, and always has been Robert's advice to Jean-Luc, which was tantamount to just deal with it. We wouldnt tell a returning soldier suffering PTSD to just "deal with it" (although, I suppose on some level we do). Picard was a prisoner of war, the was physically and psychologically tortured, and he carries the weight of the deaths of thousands on his shoulders. His brother's message to him to deal with it was epic in the scope of its minimizing the horror of Jean-Luc's guilt over the atrocities he was forced to commit. As courageous as TNG can be sometimes, this was a missed opportunity to make a real comment on grief.

The interactions between Worf and his parents are worth 4 stars alone.
Considering his initial displeasure at them visiting he always has a little smile when in their company and in the end did everything he could to make them enjoy their stay.
The Picard stuff was handled well and the scene with Crusher and his Dad was good as well. The moment at the end when he goes to touch the fading image is a throat lumper.
Easy 4 star episode this.

I'm curious how it was decided that everyone in France would have British accents.

@PeteTongLaw -
Great Britain conquered France, once and for all, during World War 3.

Probably.

I liked this episode though I'm not sure it's a three star.

Just one thing. Sometimes it's a little disappointing to see how little fantasy TNG (and TOS) writers had when it came to describing the future when they were NOT dealing with star ships and aliens and conflict in space. Here was a chance to show us what Earth is like in the 24th century, and what do we get? Earth in the 20th century. I am always surprised by the lack of imagination in those kind of episodes. I can sort of understand why womens' roles were still mostly traditional in TOS, but TNG season 4 was made in the 90s... yet here we still have an episode where wives are homemakers. I just can't get over how old-fashioned the whole setting was. Back to space, please.

This was a great episode, four stars from me. It has always been said that "Star Wars is fake, Star Trek is real." Well, the characters - Picard, Worf, and Wesley all - went through what would be very real trauma. In the real world, grief, coping and closure is very important. Bravo to the writers and producers for recognizing that. To use a goofy sci-fi term, this episode ret-cons even more reality back to instigating "Sins of the Father" and "BOBW" episodes.

To Moonie- what a wonderful thing it is to make a home, make beautiful meals, and overall to be able to dedicate one's life to family! Solid people usually come from the love and sacrifice built in solid families. And what could be more important in influencing the future than building the very life, character and morals of what is LITERALLY "The Next Generation"! We think with our arrogance that a "career" is so critical, when in reality the sum of years of work turns out to be quite trivial and to someone else's benefit, while we outsource the _truly_ critical work of raising children to someone else, or no one at all.

I hope and pray that any future wife of mine not only has the smarts, drive and initiative to do anything she wants in the world, but also that she's wise enough to be willing to sacrifice work-oriented "glories" for the beyond critical task of raising our children. (As should I, as well.)

Never give the raising of children short shrift!

Four stars from me. BOBW was extremely well done and deserves its four stars because everything, character, plot, fx, and acting was first rate...including music. Family goes from that horrific set of events and deals with the aftermath and consequences of life in service to society. It tells the little stories of real people dealing with loss, choice, and change. I found much of ENT third season hard to watch but I applauded the times that they continued moving forward despite loss, fatigue, injury, and doubt. That same strength is seen here. We often just move on without the pause for reflection; that choice harms us and diminishes growth. There should be room for quiet excellence to receive equal credit.

I agree with Jammer's review. This was a nice, but flawed episode.

I found it strange that Picard would confide in his brother who he has not seen in years. Picard's brother is extremely unsympathetic. He bullies Picard heavily. He's rude and bigoted. I don't buy Picard's sudden breaking down into tears after a mud fight. He should still have been angry after what his brother had said to him. You don't just forget those things after a little fight. I agree with William that it did bring Picard down to Earth, which is a good thing, but I don't like how it was done.

It's also strange that the 24th century French have gone back to living like in the 20th century, except that they have forgotten how to speak French.

Wesley's father's speech was pretty horrible. "You're only a baby, but you'll probably be a doctor." This could have been a very moving scene. Wesley's "goodbye dad" was a lot more moving than his father's speech.

It was nice to see Worf's parents. They reminded me of Bashir's parents. Except they had better luck than the latter when visiting their son.

I liked the way the episode ended with young Rene lying under a tree gazing up at the stars, dreaming about one day commanding his own starship. The shot reminded me of the scene in Star Wars when Luke Skywalker was out in the field staring up at the two moons, dreaming of similar things.

I had to echo the feelings of a previous poster here about the gratuitousness of killing off Robert and Rene Picard.
No fire suppression system there at Chateau Picard, I see.
I'm surprised they even had electricity or running water.
A glaring inconsistency.
Also, as I'm typing here I've got Nth Degree on and as much as I may like some aspects of it, it clearly is the episode that signaled the beginning of the end for the Will Riker character AND so begins here the era of the audio wallpaper soundtrack.
Say what you may about Night Terrors (one of my top 10, actually), the musical soundtrack is magnificent. The music in Identity Crisis was a transition...a hodgepodge with elements of the prior and the next episodes providing a bridge over the chasm between the 2 disparate styles involved. And then Nth Degree....and except for very few exceptions (The Inner Light being the prime exception), the aural tenor of the show would never be the same. And with it went a chunk of the show's heart. And boy, is Riker dumb in Nth Degree!

@ Jonn Walsh

The producers' decision to go for incredibly bland atonal background music was the wrong choice. Imagine if Ron Jones had scored Gambit I and II!

Honestly, I think the change in soundtrack style is when TNG went from being cinematic to just another TV show.

My goodness I hate it when TNG uses those TOS film era uniforms without the collar and belt. They just look so cheap and lazy.

I liked this episode for the characterisation of Robert Picard.

The previous 3 seasons have shown us Jean-Luc as a reserved man, capable of great emotion, but usually keeping it locked behind a wall of reserve. Occasionally he is outright cold, even if his care for his crew is obvious in his actions.

Robert comes across as similar. He felt he had to care for his younger brother, but apparently was incapable of showing Jean-Luc that he actually cared. Their parents have a lot to answer for, it appears.

Likewise I don't read his comments as a command: 'deal with it'. They sound more like an observation: 'whatever you do, you are going to have to deal with your trauma'. Completely in character as factual observation, but unhelpful on an interpersonal emotional level.

The brother-brother dynamic reads true, which makes this a highlight of the episode, and raises it to the 'great episodes' list in my opinion.

In many other shows, this episode probably wouldn't be ground-breaking or original at all. For Trek, however, "Family" is nothing short of unprecedented. Never before have we been given an opportunity like this to explore the ramifications of the actions of the characters and it will be quite a while before we get something like this again. For them to devote an entire episode to how Picard has been affected by his experience with the Borg was a stroke of genius.

Compare this with something from TOS. In "The Paradise Syndrome" Kirk loses his memory, spends a month on an alien planet, meets and falls in love with a local woman, marries her and almost has a child with her before her death. By the time the very next episode comes around, Kirk has apparently completely forgotten about her. Within two episodes, he's flirting heavily with another woman. Within ten episodes, they did another episode where Kirk has completely fallen in love with someone else. There's no attempt made what-so-ever to deal with the emotional impact this must have had on Kirk. But here, TNG very much puts a spotlight on Picard's emotional turmoil. Getting assimilated probably isn't something you could just shrug off. I give this episode massive credit for finally doing this for a Trek character.

The use of Picard's family to showcase his emotional distress is wonderful as well. His problems with his brother and his rather chilly relationship with his dead father do more to humanize him and show his softer side than "Captain's Holiday" could have ever hoped to do.

The other two sub-plots with Worf and Wesley are also pleasantly enjoyable. It's nice to see that they are already spending time setting up Worf's eventual restoration in "Redemption." And, the Wesley plot, is pleasant enough for what it is.

My only problem with "Family" is the same problem I have with "The Best of Both Worlds, Part II." We're so focused on our main characters that we still don't see the larger picture of how the Borg Incident effected life on Earth. For all intents and purposes it looks like it had no impact what-so-ever. Aside from the mayor of Labarre wanting to give Picard a parade, there's not even a mention of how the rest of the population is dealing with what just happened.

9/10

As noted, to follow up the all action season opener with a purely character driven piece was a ballsy move. And it works because the characters are now strong enough that we actually care what is happening to them - to see them coming to terms in the wake of events just past feels like an appropriate coda instead of another mission as normal.

To me this is full of wonderful little moments - and it's in the little things that the episode shines. Even the brother's fist fight and Picard's subsequent emotional outburst feels organic to the story. It's a wonderful episode. 3.5 stars.

One thought I just had while rewatching this episode:

Why does Riker lose his promotion after Best of Both Worlds? Obviously, if he chooses not to take a command on another starship and remain first officer of the Enterprise, then that's fine, but it seems a bit unfair that he doesn't get to keep the earned Captain rank. After all, Captain Spock was Captain Kirk's first officer for a long while there...

It's mostly because the powers that be thought the audience would find it confusing if there were two captains on the show. They did something similar with Spock in the movies. Notice how after Kirk is demoted back to Captain, Spock retains his Captain rank but is almost never referred to as Captain Spock.

It's actually kind of insulting to the audience's intelligence, if you ask me.

In universe, I assume the promotion came with command responsibilities, and that he turned it down.

Out of universe I'm sure Luke is 100% correct and it is kind of insulting. If a COMMANDER can run a space station why can't the FLAG SHIP have a Captain as a first officer.

They don't even have to call him Captain either. Sir and Number One would suffice in 99.999999% of situations. He could just have the 4th pip. Picard would still outrank him because of his role. It's the same way that when Dax was in command of the Defiant she'd outrank anybody who wasn't in command... even if they held the same rank. She doesn't need a 4th pip for that.

I think Riker finally getting command of the Titan (The most powerful ship of that era?) shows that Riker was a commander in name only. Before that, if he had gone to an admiral or Starfleet, It's 100% certain they would've given him some sort of ship assignment with rank of Captain.

Also, maybe Picard dislikes having to share the title on his ship? As long as Picard commands the Enterprise, there shall not be other captains roaming around confusing the command structure. That sounds in-character with Picard to me.

@Chrome - "maybe Picard dislikes having to share the title on his ship? As long as Picard commands the Enterprise, there shall not be other captains roaming around confusing the command structure"

I don't care for that idea. In real life most aircraft carriers in the U.S. Navy (the closest equivalent to Starfleet's Galaxy class ships) have multiple captains on their crews. I remember someone (it may have been here on Jammer's site, or somewhere else, I can't remember exactly) pointing out how he was a Navy veteran who had served on an aircraft carrier. The commanding officer, the first officer, the chief engineering officer and the chief medical officer were all captains and yet there was no confusion about the chain of command.

Picard's ego is much larger than the those who captain U.S. navy ships. It's that French (British) culture, I tell you.

I really liked this episode but the big hole that is never addressed is Riker's demotion back down to Commander from Captain. This was not addressed in TBBW2 either. I wonder what this was never even mentioned.

Oops, I didn't see the other comments similar to mine. Sorry to duplicate.

I agree with a lot of the posters that this a pivotal episode for format as well as content. I didn't mind the mud-fighting scene but when Picard breaks down crying covered in mud it robbed the scene of emotional gravitas for me.

The scenes with Worf and his parents were great. It's so nice that Worf is finally getting more and more attention/screen-time. Clearly we can see how much his parents love him and distressed to see him in such pain (as only loving parents can do).

The fact that Riker is now a commander again is because I figured it was a field promotion done during a state of emergency. Also, there is now a massive lack of operable starships.

I have to say that this is perhaps the first episode that I haven't wanted to slap Wesley Crusher. As annoying as he is, at least he has a degree of closure over his father's death.

I always found Picard's brother and wife to be too old to have such a young son. Both of them are clearly in their 50s, yet their son is no older than about 10. Robert is old enough to be his grandfather!

With regards to the accents, I made a comment about this in the Generations review - they might actually be speaking in French, and what we are hearing is the universal translator, which presumably removes foreign language accents and makes everyone sound either American or British (Worf's parents still having their native accent due to them speaking in English). Or by the 24th century, France might have embraced the English language to a point where it might be as widely spoken as French itself.

As for the village looking too 20th century - I'm not sure what this means, as it looks much older than that to me. It is a village after all, not a city. Most rural areas in Europe haven't changed much in appearance in the last few hundred years, and probably won't in the next few hundred either. We do see some modern touches such as communication towers, etc.

Just a note: The person in command of a ship is always called captain no matter what rank is formally held. For example "Captain" Bligh was a lieutenant.

I liked that Worf's parents were plainly Jewish. They would naturally sympathize with Worf's "outsider" status. I thought their family scenes together were quite touching. His request for some of Mom's Pie was a "humanizing" touch, sweet.

I imagine vineyards will look pretty much the same in a couple hundred years as they do now. Bottles? Maybe not. Corks or screw tops?

Undermarked here I feel. This is a beautiful episode of Trek that allows the viewer to become emotionally connected to these characters. And a tour-de-force performance from Patrick Stewart. I would give it the full 4 stars were it not for the Wesley/Jack material, which is dull, tells us nothing new, is poorly acted and feels like filler. 3.5 stars seems about right.

Sigh, I really wanted to like this...

And I did. 3 stars? Are you smoking pot, Jamahl? This is a 4 star - or definitely a 3 and a half star episode. We're not used to seeing the human side of Picard - and after what happened with the Borg, this was a wonderful way of addressing the long term effects he will face from his ordeal. The whole storyline with his brother was well acted, well scripted, and had a genuineness that craps all over the "shields at 22%" waffle that plagues too many scenes in Trek. Even the B stories were important and gave some depth to the characters. And it's always a pleasure to see Whoopi playing Guinan.

It was a stroke of genius to portray his brother a jealous, bitter, older polar opposite character. Instead of a silly episode where Picard has a sentimental heart to heart, we get a believable breakdown. And it's all set up properly. I've seen this episode a few times, and I always doubt whether it's the same show that gives us so much treknobabble. After the silly unrealistic "Shelby" character in the previous episode, it was great to see a believable and flawed character - and the real Picard behind the mask of captain.

It was a lovely episode.

Out of universe I'm sure Luke is 100% correct and it is kind of insulting. If a COMMANDER can run a space station why can't the FLAG SHIP have a Captain as a first officer.
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It's more to do with the fact everyone would then call Riker captain from time to time and this is confusing in a TV show. Nah, it would be too silly to try to pull off.

Some people cry at the drop of a hat, for no reason at all (Tasha, you idiot, I'm looking at you.)

Some people never cry. Never even flinch. Not even when they get stabbed in the heart by a Nausicaan or are put on trial by an omniscient being or face risk and death and the frightening unknown every day, while shouldering a vast responsibility they can't truly share with anyone else.

So when someone that controlled and stoic breaks down finally - just for a moment - you know exactly how much emotional devastation it's taken to bring them to that point.

Picard's crying scene.
Four stars.

Sometimes an episode may be mediocre to good, but not great. But for some viewers, an episode perceived as average by some, gets carried over the top by experiential influence.

I am one of those viewers.

"Family" was early in the 1990 seasons, just after BOBW II. Without getting too soapy here, 1989-1990 was a high point in my life; a period of "rest" that came after some very tough years. That's what this episode was for Picard in many senses, so it grabbed me up by the heart strings.

One of those specific heart strings for me is found in community. "Family" is largely about community for many of our main characters (Picard, Worf, and others), sometimes beyond relatives. Picard's welcome home, the instant job offer, etc. all catalyzed by people he had relationships with even though he was very much the stoic loner on the surface.

In both 1989 and 1990 I attended a couple of very warm and very emotional informal reunions with old friends from college, so in that same context, this episode resonates heavily with me. The straw that breaks the camel's back, for me, is always the parting scene between the Picard brothers: Robert-- "This is a little of the '47. Do not drink it all in one place. And try not to drink it alone." It's not uncommon for me to quote along with Robert, and if I'm not crying already, the "try not to drink it alone" finishes me off, without fail. Even in current years, the nostalgia of those two years still empowers this episode to draw blood.

Another tender spot for me is during Guinan's little chat with the Rozhenkos in Ten Forward. I always thought this exchange mildly sweet / touching through the years, since Worf always kept his adoptive parents at a distance (due to his discommendation, supposedly). Later in life, I would BECOME an adoptive parent myself...Guinan's words took on a whole new meaning, and a much sharper set of teeth. That's the experiential factor I'm talking about. I've got the bite marks to prove it.

I would never call the production or plot or whatever outstanding in its own cinematic right, but the experiential buttons in me that it always pushes without fail get it four stars from me.

Agreed with previous commenters that some years under one's belt adds a great deal of emotional weight to re-watching this, as opposed to originally having viewed it as a much younger person.

In addition to the great acting by the leads and guests, I'd like to add that I thought Marina Sirtis was absolutely wonderful in her scenes with Picard and B. Crusher. So much warmth and genuine caring... a long way from the earlier 'Counselor' in Season One who would stand on the bridge and give vague pronouncements about the motivation of every alien race encountered.

@RedSportsCar:

Yes, Troi was one of those non-family elements of community that stands out to me. One expects family members (Robert, Worf's parents, etc.) to stand up and defend/support their own, but it's even healthier when the circle gets wider than family -- Louis for one example, and his opportunity for Picard to step outside Star Fleet should he desire (yeah, right). Troi was another; she reached out to Picard as you so aptly point out, and to Beverly. Guinan really scores points with the Rozhenkos, and with Worf himself. I'm a big Community guy, and this episode nails it.

It's interesting the Ronald D. Moore wrote this episode... I'm reminded of BSG's "Flight of the Phoenix". that episode follows the same "community" theme and drew tears from me the first time I saw it. (Okay, the first several dozen times...) Moore didn't write it, but still, I wonder whether there was influence of this sort.

Kind of a nice step back after BoBW. The moments between Picard and his brother were good in showing the captain's feelings of helplessness in BoBW and that he does need a little help from his older bro who resents all of Picard's success.

A change of pace to see all the filming in the vineyards was nice. But the fight in the mud and then laughing about it is a bigtime cliche -- didn't seem very genuine to me.

Not much of a plot here and a little bit of character examination -- but nothing really notable for me. No issue with throwing in an episode like this now and then -- at least there's nothing ridiculous here. On the contrary, it does give a chance to
see Worf, Picard, and a bit of Wes in a different light.

Good thing also is it reinforces Picard's belief that his place is as captain of the Enterprise.

Not too much to say here, 2.5 stars for me. Some decent guest actors with Picard's older bro and Worf's parents made the episode enjoyable, but there's definitely nothing of excellent caliber or particularly touching here.

Watching BoBW and this episode again, it struck me how much the members of the cast were enjoying themselves. This was TNG at the top of its game and the confidence oozes out of the actors. It's hard to recall what a massive career risk the role of Picard had been for Patrick Stewart. He was one of the world's top Shakesperian actors and his decision to headline a sci-fi series like Star Trek was, well, "bold" if not downright bizarre. Towards the end of Season 2 he must have been wondering what a fine mess he had gotten himself into. But by this point it's clear the gamble has paid off and 'Family' gives him another opportunity to show off his Shakesperian chops.

4 stars from me.

Gosh-lukewarm praise from Jammer for this episode which must be one of the best episodes of TNG.

The good:

The entirety of Picard's visit with his older brother's family.
One of the main reasons this works is the use of Jeremy Kemp against whom Stewart is superb.
The climax of the mud fight may seem simplistic to our informed eyes-today's audience would say -'Jean Luc -you have years of therapy ahead of you to address your PTSD and you can forget about returning to duty ' but back in 1990 I think it would have worked.

Worf's visit with his parents-homely yes but enjoyable

Not so good

The late Jack Crusher's inane and schmalzy holomessage .BTW what happened to the undersweater for his tunic?

"Family" is a significant episode and is among TNG's best. I also see it as being a missed opportunity.

The events of the Best of Worlds provided a rare opportunity to see another side of these characters. Their homes back on Earth, their families and an opportunity to see what they are like when they are on their own, away from Starfleet.

This should have been at least a two part episode. Picard's issues with his brother were wrapped up a bit too quickly. It would have been nice to learn more about other characters and their connections to Earth. Does Riker have a home in Alaska? What was he doing during this time? Does Data have any connection to Earth or to anyone there? It would have been interesting to see Data visiting Earth and to see how he interacts with people when not on duty. What about Geordi?

TNG writers had a good excuse to write a few episodes that would have focused on Earth as a setting. The Enterprise had to be repaired and probably upgraded. Picard needed to recover and Starfleet almost certainly would have wanted to debrief Picard and to have him examined to make sure he was no longer under the influence of the Borg. There could have been even an inquiry as to if Picard should even be allowed to command the Enterprise again.

For those who feel the Worf and Wesley plotlines were not worthy, bear in mind that when this story was being broken, Rick Berman requested a sci-fi B-story to take place on the ship while Picard was on Earth. That story was about a warp bubble drifting around the ship capturing people. Thank goodness the staff realized this would not be a good mash-up and saved this idea for "Remember Me".

Also, this story was fourth in production order because it was the younger staffers (led by Ron Moore) that felt that Picard needed to be shown recovering what what was basically the technological rape of his mind and body. Piller was convinced, but there was no way to write and prep a script in the time they had.
If he hadn't agreed, the next episode would have been that Jeri Taylor crapfest "Suddenly Human" where Picard gets to play daddy to a what-may-as-well-have-been feral child.

I agree with whomever said that Picard's brother seems too old to have a son that young.

About the comments about France seeming too 20th century, actually the vineyard looks even older than that, but THAT's THE POINT! Have you been to Europe? A lot of the architecture hasn't changed since the US became a country! Now the cities should look modern, but a vineyard in a village? It actually goes along with what Dr Soong said in the next episode about humans being fascinated with old things and a Nuvian (sp?) would want something new and efficient

What a great episode. After the drama of Best of Both Worlds we get this episode that slows everything down and tells us to appreciate the little things. I really liked Worf’s parents. What sweet people. We hear of all the problems and trying times that came with humans trying to raise their Klingon son but they only answer any hardship with unconditional love.

I thought this was a rock solid episode, and goes a long way to counter some of my previous criticism of the show as being too rooted in physical peril to resolve character conflicts. This storytelling style will remain a backbone of the show, but this episode proved that Trek could be more.

Again, like so many above me, I thought this was a waste of an episode as a child, but as an adult it now it feels essential companion piece to Best Of Both Worlds.

Liked "Family" at the time. Love it now.

If I had a complaint, it's they didn't do enough of these kinds of episodes.

Picard's dialogue and performance when he breaks down after the mud fight is perhaps my favorite scene in all of Star Trek. The grit of the mud, the dignified Picard character descending to a realization of muddy human weakness despite striving so hard for perfection; having given his everything only to find that he was not good enough; his best not enough.
It's not just because it's good in episode, but because of the exemplary writing of the Picard character as a whole. Knowing the whole series elevates this scene immensely. His central character conflict story arc for the entire series is summed up in his dealing with having been assimilated by the Borg. This man of exemplary character and supreme self-control and grace under every pressure has met his match; he has been deeply wounded and damaged by what has happened to him, and this breakdown scene reveals that.
The resolution of this wound does not occur until the First Contact movie when Picard loses control and yells at Lily. To see the high level struggle of such a noble well-written character is the height of drama, and add Patrick Stewart's acting on top of it and in my mind it becomes an immortal scene; it carries so much weight upon the whole series. This is Picard's emotional pinnacle.
(I also like Picard's "Death scene" speech in the episode "Final Mission." If Picard had died after this speech, I think it would have been a fitting end for his character.)

Well said JT

JT,

I just watched this one a couple days ago. I agree with everything you said but I'd like to add that IMO the biggest "thing" that the Borg took away from Picard was his liberty, freedom of thought and choice.

My favorite thing about this episode is that it pokes a hole into the heart of the sci-fi of Trek, bringing up an issue that would be more openly discussed a few times in DS9. Picard didn't just lose something personal, but was forced to admit that Robert was right in some way about technology. When one's entire life is lived in a technological vessel where 99.999% of all important things are done for you, the extent to which you're dependent on it will never be apparent once you get used to it. Family doesn't just show a man coming to terms with assimilation, but in a way portrays the dangers in a people of becoming entwined with their technology and allowing it to change them. The lesson here is that the Borg aren't just a threat from outside, but from within. The Federation itself is in danger of becoming lifeless and dependent if it lets that happen going forward. Arguably it may have happened to an extent already - the Borg are just a preview.

One reason Robert comes across as so oppressive is his aggressive attitude towards not only technology but towards the conformity that often comes with new methods. Think about today and how much of a luddite someone seems who refuses to have a smart phone or mobile device. This sense of 'need' people have to adapt to the newest tech is precisely the uniformity the Borg represent, and Robert would rather remain in the 19th century than be swept up in the process of having his life assimilated. He knows that he would risk losing the simple pleasures of eating fresh food and taking the time to grow things. Of course we must also see in him the irony that if you resist change you, too, end up locked in to a sort of conformity - that of resistance. And as the Borg say, resistance is futile when it comes to changing society and lifestyle. It's usually just a question of when, not if.

I'd call this a top-tier Trek episode not just because of the colorful performances but because here we get the first true critique in TNG of celebrating technology in an unqualified manner. If left unchecked man can become a slave to it, unable to think for himself. Picard, I think, represents what humanity needs to retain - a sort of compromise between using technology while keeping fresh the old human interests like art, philosophy, poetry, and history. He might be called the best of both worlds, if you will.

"The lesson here is that the Borg aren't just a threat from outside, but from within. The Federation itself is in danger of becoming lifeless and dependent if it lets that happen going forward. Arguably it may have happened to an extent already - the Borg are just a preview."

Viewing the Borg as an internal threat -- a preview of the future -- also makes Q Who even more resonant. Q explicitly frames the Borg as the type of threat humanity will encounter in the future, and which it will have to know how to defend itself against when the time comes, should humanity survive. Interpreting it as an internal threat, Q is partly showing Picard et al the possibility of a future fate they may be unable to avoid, or even survive -- and one of the trials that fits into the Q test of humanity of whether it ought to survive.

@ William B,

Have you read Sawyer's "Calculating God"? It's a sci-fi novel involving advances alien societies mysteriously vanishing, and -

SPOILER

- it comes out late in the book that what happens is that when a society becomes sufficiently advanced technologically what usually happens is they construct a computer system simulating paradise, upload their brains into it, and their real-world society ends. The premise in the book is that if a society doesn't have a strong reason to stay vibrant it will always devolve into a sort of pleasure-seeking slavery. The Borg are a bit different in that they're outwardly aggressive, but I think the truth behind them is that it's the enslavement by technology that is aggressive and you have to actively resist it by maintaining the human side of the equation.

@Peter G., William B

“Family doesn't just show a man coming to terms with assimilation, but in a way portrays the dangers in a people of becoming entwined with their technology and allowing it to change them. The lesson here is that the Borg aren't just a threat from outside, but from within. The Federation itself is in danger of becoming lifeless and dependent if it lets that happen going forward. ”

While I do agree there’s a message here about Picard getting back to simplicity away from technology in order to find himself, I think the message was more balanced about technology than you suggest.

For starters, there was a moment where Picard was considering abandoning space altogether and living a different, perhaps simpler life near his family helping Louis with his sea exploration project. Ultimately this plan was rejected by some gentle nudging by Robert, implying that Picard would be running away from his technological dreams in space.

Another, perhaps more important, point is that the episode shows that Picard’s visit also has an impact *on Robert*, who originally seemed bitter with Picard’s life decisions which abandoned family tradition. The ending sequence where we see René dreaming about adventures in stars, wanting to follow Picard’s path, shows Robert’s apparent change in attitude when he says “Let him dream.”

So while Picard may have been able to recover by shedding technology I think there’s also a message that Robert deep down does admire his brother’s life work, to the extent that he wouldn’t mind his son ending up like Picard.

@ Chrome,

That's more or less in keeping with what I meant. My 'resistance is futile' line isn't just meant to convey pessimism, but that the only way to look it forward. Robert's version of pretending to stay in the past is untenable in the long-run, but on the other hand racing towards the future with no thought to the destination is just as dangerous. The balanced message, as you put it, seems to say that the Robert side of the equation mustn't be lost if the Federation is to stay human and avoid becoming a technological terror. I think Picard is the exemplar of that balance, and it took spending time at home to remind him that despite the dangers posed by the future he actually is equipped to meet them.

One can almost look at it in larger terms, thinking back to Encounter at Farpoint, where Q ordered the Federation back to Earth. Family shows us that between hiding on Earth on going out there to perhaps become a terrible thing, there really is no option. One must both go out there, and also avoid becoming the terrible thing. I think the Trek message is that this can really be accomplished if we have a common goal to that effect.

@Yanks,

"I just watched this one a couple days ago. I agree with everything you said but I'd like to add that IMO the biggest "thing" that the Borg took away from Picard was his liberty, freedom of thought and choice."


I totally agree, which is why that tear that Picard sheds while he's being assimilated in Best of Both World's Part 2 is so brilliant to me. That is the moment when he realizes he isn't strong enough; the moment he sorrows at having to lose the thing most precious to him; the moment his humanity dies. Assimilation is the antithesis of who Picard is, and I think that ties in well to what Peter, Chrome and William were saying above about becoming slaves to technology instead of embracing it in a way that helps us become more fully alive.

@ Peter G

I agree. I am one of those "luddites" that doesn't have a smartphone. I own a business, so do have a cell phone, but it doesn't have texting. I do a lot of driving throughout North America, and don't have a GPS. A lot of people think I'm odd, *(and I guess I am). I actually call people who I see on their phones CONSTANTLY the Borg! (or the Cybermen) Some people get it

But, I do see these devices as good tools-in fact, I need some kind of device in my ministry, but all and all, I do not become a slave to it. In fact, I am trying to weed myself away from being on my desktop all the time (although I AM typing this at 12:30am!)

Jammer comments that the weight of the problems resolved in the fight between the Picard brothers, is lost. I certainly think the weight is softened, but not lost.

In this 'not quite serialized' era of trek, the fact that there even was this problem from the episode before that takes a whole other episode to resolve, was unique.

Unfortunately as the status quo is back to normal the following episode, I think that making the implications of Picard's torture at the hands of the Borg 'resolved' was the right decision.

This was the first episode of TNG that I ever saw; I was 10 years old, it was 1994, and BBC2 had been airing TOS's third season, which was where I got into Star Trek, and then they switched to TNG, starting here...

It's not a great episode for a 10 year old anyway, as it's a character piece rather than the all-action stuff I wanted, and it's certainly not the best episode to choose as your TNG starting point, as I had no idea what Picard was whinging about!

It's taken me 24 years to get around to watching it again, and I appreciated it much more, though I do agree with Jammer, I think, that it's good but not brilliant.

The bit I perhaps liked most was the opening scene with Picard and Troi; it felt like Ron Moore was poking fun at Troi's general uselessness!

I adore Worf's parents, they are just so sweet!

Watch Sergey's reaction when Guinan asks them about prune juice. That makes me laugh every time.

Probably my favourite episode of TNG. Brilliantly acted and well paced. Picard is old school machismo that probably has no place in the future alongside Robert’s “deal with it” attitude would probably be written a lot differently now compared to the early 90’s. BoBW 1&2 alongside Family back to back to back was definitely the pinnacle of TNG.

Robert telling Jean Luc that he enjoyed bullying him made me picture them as youngsters and made their mud fight all the more real so totally understood why Jean Luc felt safe enough to allow himself to let go.

Hopefully Jammer, with the passage of time that has passed, with yourself having an even more mature outlook on life, you could reconsider your 3 stars into a 4.
P.s thank you for this site. Love all you guys.

I agree w others who say this was a powerful tear-jerker in the vineyard and at the end...especially so when you see Renee sitting in the grass under that tree looking up into the sky as a shooting star (presumably the Enterprise going to warp as it departs the Solar System) streaks by overhead and then realize Renee (and Robert) die horribly in a fire four years later, as mentioned in Star Trek Generations.)

If this episode had been titled 'The Best of Both Worlds (Part III)' – which is effectively what it is – its reputation would arguably be much higher. As it is, it's superb and incredibly moving. And Worf's parents are adorable.

9/10

The depiction of the two brothers was a masterpiece portrayal. I am so sick of saccharine on TV with relationships - even conflict between siblings often ends with reconciliation which is bullshit. There can be good reason to hate or dislike your sibling, lets see it once in a while. …..and in the end, Robert provided some comfort or at least acknowledgement as to what Jean Luc was going through but it was still a chilly détente.

Everything else was fine. I like Worf and his family and the Wesley arc wasn't too annoying.

I really liked this episode.

It was a departure from the standard ST fare, and a well done one. The bucolic, peaceful, sunny beauty of La Barre, Picard's hometown, was such a great contrast to their usual surroundings.

Everything is so . . . down to Earth. Soil, vines, grapes, wine, a child, a marriage, home cooking. Talk of the ocean. Of reclamation. You can almost smell the mud when Picard gets covered with it.

The performances were outstanding.

The Worf stuff was wonderful character development for Worf. The Wes stuff was less significant, but interesting nonetheless.

Roles, relationships, the way we build our lives, the paths we choose and the people along the way - the paths we don't choose, and the people we leave behind.

Just a beautiful little interlude before, like The Enterprise, we're all charged up and on our way.

Not really my sort of episode, this one. It's not really in the Star Trek tradition of tension, peril and drama. But I respect it for what it is.

One thing that I do find interesting about this episode, the thing I remember it for most, is the family home in France. There's absolutely nothing futuristic about it. It looks like the early part of the 20th Century. Picard's "laptop" stands out like a sore thumb there. It might have seemed appropriately 24th Century-ish when this episode was first screened, but it looks ridiculously dated now so even that's a bit anachronistic.

Nice to see Jeremy Kemp in TNG. Superb actor. Died in July last year, sadly.

This is a super nerdy thing to bring up, but I just can't help it. In the final scene when Robert and Marie are looking out the window at Rene under the tree, you can see it's a double-hung window, but the top sash is farther inside the house than the bottom sash. That's backwards because it would allow rain to leak in, and it also means the sash lock would be upside down, and the weights/pulleys for the bottom sash would be outside exposed to the weather. In fact you can barely see what looks like a plugged hole where a lock would've been on the top rail of the bottom sash, but they probably pulled it when someone realized the lock would be outside. One of a few "this is obviously a set" fails, but it doesn't hurt my love for this episode.

@jeffery

Most of us are too busy staring at that roaring fireplace as Robert and Marie discuss their son's future to notice the windows. ;-P

{{ My biggest problem with this episode is, and always has been Robert's advice to Jean-Luc, which was tantamount to just deal with it. We wouldnt tell a returning soldier suffering PTSD to just "deal with it" }}

I can see how it would look that way, although what I took (and what I *think* they were going for) is more "You'll have to face it one way or the other - you can't just run from it."

Oncle René is the star in this episode.

David -"I always found Picard's brother and wife to be too old to have such a young son. Both of them are clearly in their 50s, yet their son is no older than about 10. Robert is old enough to be his grandfather!"

What an ignorant and ageist statement

There are parents who reproduce in their 40's and have young children in their 50's whether by adoption, IVF or natural means, plus its the 24th century, humans having kids after 40 or even 50 should be as normal as sleeping, after all they can live to 140 years

Just watched this again today.

Jammer was wrong. Worf's father used to be a warp specialist on the previous generation of Starships. He had the schematics for the newer class because his son served on the newest class ship.

My nitpick is that Chief Petty Officer O'Brien is enlisted, but he wears Lt. Pips on his collar. Sergey even commented that he also was an enlisted Chief Petty Officer, and was proud that Worf was commissioned and a higher rank then he was.

I love the episode, but Picard's brother needed a beat down. Knowing how he was, I would never go back and visit him.

O’Brien’s rank is one of those odd topics where the writers and production people weren’t on the same page.

I'm amazed I never thought about this Atlantis Project idea which is just crazy. I'm with Robert - what in blazes is the benefit of raising a continent that justifies causing environmental upheaval, mass death of ocean wildlife and destruction of an entire ecosystem? Maybe Earth would have been better off assimilated by the Borg....

Yeah, O'Brien was written with inconsistent rank on TNG. He often wore Lieutenant pips, and is directly addressed as "Lieutenant" in Where Silence Has Lease, but the few times he refers to his own status, he's a Chief Petty Officer.

RE: Picard's brother "needing" a beatdown:

I thought the point of this episode is that big bro deliberately leaned into all of his luddite tendencies and jealousy of Jean Luc to elicit a response from him. Sure, he felt all of those things but I thought it was a brother's attempt to shake up his sibling to get them to start to face the trauma they had endured.

Love this episode, just wish we had gotten more from the brother before this episode because it would have made the brotherly bond and attempt to help land better.

Who doesn't like a bit of sexy mud wrestling involving two bald, middle aged men ? Slow it down and put some heavy sax and bass in the background and you're away.

Picard is also a demon at packing. Wish I could fit everything for a weeks stay in such a tiny bag.

@Frake's Nightmare

Well, those 24th-century folks generally travel pretty light, probably because replicators can supply most of what they might want or need at their destination.

In fact, I kind of wonder why people need to pack anything for a relatively short trip. But given Robert's anti-replicator attitude, I guess Picard has to make sure he has enough changes of clothes, just in case any of them get, well, muddy.

I think my biggest problem with "Family" is the 173 year-old couple with the 12 year-old child. Creepy.

This is one of the episodes I always remember most clearly. It’s quite unlike other episodes but has a dramatic continuity following on from the BOBW story. Of COURSE the ship needs repairs, and the crew needs time off to recover from their meeting the Borg. I think it was a stroke of genius to conceive an episode like Family in which nothing much happens but character is explored in depth.

Having said that, I was much more engaged in the Picard scenes than in the ship-based Worf scenes. The change of scene, and the fraternal conflict, gave us a sort of mini-play that although quite un-Trek like, we could sink into on its own terms and enjoy.

I also liked the moment of comedy:

TROI: (psycho babble , psycho babble, psycho babble)
PICARD: (long hard stare) I hate when you do that.

So do we, so do we!!

This is my favourite episode in the series. The only weak spot is the Crusher c-plot which brings it down to 3.5 stars. The Roshenkos are exactly like my parents and Picard's relationship with his brother reminds me of my brothers. We definitely go right back to fighting old battles at the drop of a hat and will bitch about eachother behind their backs.

I thought the whole mud fight scene was a great idea, but could've been much better executed. I never buy the spontaneous laughter stuff. Not when it was Kira and Dukat, and not here. I just feel like the quality of dialogue, as a whole, could've been raised, but I'm still glad they addressed it and still consider it a good scene.

I did tear up at one point in the episode though. It was when Guinan was talking to Worf's parents. That was powerful stuff.

I bailed ten minutes into it.

Picard comes into a 24th-century rural France and the places looks like it "did" in the 20th century. The buildings, the roadways, the clothes, the language... - even a backwater village would have shown SOME modernity over the course of 3-1/2 centuries.

Give me a break.

Also, personal drama? No me interesa. That's what Maury Povich is for.

Zero stars.

I say, just as I was watching this episode, I had sat down with a good bottle of wine myself! A Chateau Brianne '83, a very good vintage. I can't say I remember much about the episode after a few glasses, the intro came on and then poff! I woke up on the floor just in time to see that marvellous fight in the mud. Ah, reminds me of my days at school at St Rango's Academy for Mischievous Boys.

I just watched this episode twice for a re-watch project I started Covid-Era. I love this episode and have a hard time with the criticisms, though I do understand them. Jammer, you have my respect no matter what!
I am mesmerized by Jeremy Kemp's portrayal of Robert. Every eyebrow raise, every frown, every docile look to Marie...his control and understanding of who he is as an actor is amazing. From the first faraway look as he eats grape off the vine, he is a tough, old Frenchman with skin like knotted grapevines. His assessment: "This will stay with you a long time Jean-Luc...." cuts to the bone and carries all the gravitas of a caring, older brother.
....and maybe its because I'm French and I actually had a fight like this with my older brother in our garage with a similar result.
Picard is not wooden in past episodes, but he certainly plays "controlled" as a military figurehead. To see him let the mask of command drop for once was the best tear jerk ever so far.

The Wesley segment is harmless, but light. It's a few minutes I would rather have seen them devote to Picard interacting with Robert and other humans. How would people respond to Locutus coming to Earth and applying for a job in tbe wake of Wolf 359? Hopefully, humans of the 24th century would be accepting of his situation. I think we know that today, he would be villanized and ostracized. Senate hearings, 24/7 reporters in his face, etc.

I love this episode. I agree with someone upthread who said how recognisable Robert is as Jean-Luc's brother. On the one hand, he's his complete opposite - narrow-minded, bitter, cruel. Yet they're both stubborn, both short-tempered, both devoted to their little kingdoms and extremely good at what they do. That's good writing.
I agree that the world looks old-fashioned, but I read that as because Robert is old fashioned. They don't have a car. They don't have a replicator. They're practically Amish.
Every review I've read of this dislikes the Wesley storyline and I agree it's hard to care about the death of a man we've never met. But I don't think it's there because we're supposed to feel bad for Wesley. His dad has a line about family - something around how they're connected because they share the same genes, and I think that line is what that scene is about. It's a reminder that Wesley and Picard are connected to their families even though they haven't seen them in years. And Worf, in contrast, is connected to his through different bonds.
I adore the Worf scenes. It's an unusually perceptive look at older-child adoption in TV. Even when it works, it's hard, and something is lost for the adoptive child. Of course Worf had a difficult adolescence. And of course his parents are people like this, who find it easy to love in a way Robert didn't find it easy to love the young Picard.
The fight in the mud is ridiculous, but the scene where he cries is one of the most memorable Picard scenes ever. This would be a low 4 stars for me, maybe a 3.5.

I never realized before how much BoBW resonates on so many levels through Picard's story in this episode. Practically every scene is about it. Here are some excerpts:

TROI: Captain, you do need time. You cannot achieve complete recovery so quickly. And it's perfectly normal, after what you've been through, to spend a great deal of time trying to find yourself again.
PICARD: And what better place to find oneself than on the streets of one's home village.

This exchange becomes interesting only in hindsight, because we learn that Picard has been away for 20 years, and from the sound of it left as soon as he could to get away and explore the stars. Finding himself seemingly involved getting away from home, and in light of this I can see why Troi might find Picard's remark here dubious.

MARIE: I wouldn't hear of it. It's your home and it will always be your home. Do things look that different?
PICARD: No. In fact, it's amazing how little it has changed. Everything is exactly as I remember it. The house, the hills, every tree, every bush seems untouched by the passage of time.

This statement sounds like a distant echo of Worf's "I like my species the way it is". The Borg said they sought to improve the quality of life; they represented the unremitting advance forward, whether anyone agreed to it or not. We can almost see how Picard's reaction to the Borg might perhaps have an analogue among those who view the hyper-technocracy of the Federation as being an unstoppable force that changes everyone's way of life. It's not a moral question, but just a fact, that technology moving forward does appear to have a life of its own and often puts us in its service. Reminiscing about the lack of change here stands as stark contrast against the Borg, but even against the Enterprise.

Even a line like this has resonance:

ROBERT: You've shuttled in from the village?
PICARD: No I decided to walk.

Robert surely doesn't think Jean-Luc is out of shape or lazy. This is a question of whether technology ought to be used simply because it's there. Jean-Luc is trying a change of pace, so to speak.

Dialogue like this, which may sound like it's about Picard's ego or his brother's envy, is actually about much more:

MARIE: The Mayor wants to give you a parade.
PICARD: A parade?
MARIE: Give you the keys to the city.
PICARD: No. No, no, no, no.

This isn't false humility, it's Jean-Luc horrified that they would try to honor the murderer who nearly destroyed humanity. That they would actually think he wasn't responsible for what he did, when Jean-Luc believes he was. He is not here to be seen, but to be forgotten for a while.

MARIE: Robert and I have had more than a few discussions about getting a replicator in the house.
PICARD: I remember the same discussions between mother and father.
ROBERT: Father understood better than anybody else the danger of losing those values which we hold most precious.
PICARD: I don't see that you have to lose anything just by adding a convenience.

I'm not sure why, but when hearing Jean-Luc say this my thoughts immediately went to the Borg mind-link. In lieu of arguing with his brother about values, direct mental connection would be such an improvement, a much more convenient way of letting others know how you really feel without the imprecision of words. Convenience, such as Jean-Luc describes it, goes much further than just saving 30 min cooking dinner. It becomes a way of making everything easy, but then becoming dependent, and then not even realizing that one cannot live without the convenience. A mind-link might be convenient, but what happens to you once you're connected? Are you even you any more? And perhaps the same question can be asked about other technologies as well.

RENE: Did you win a ribbon too?
PICARD: I don't recall.
ROBERT: And I don't find your modesty very convincing, brother. Of course you won the ribbon. You always did.

Here again we find that Picard always winning may perhaps be likened to technology always advancing; the force that is so superior there is no question it will win. And yet Picard's greatest moment is when, as Locutus, he lost, and Riker won.

PICARD: I am not encouraging him. If you weren't so narrow minded, if you allowed him to see the world as it really is
ROBERT: You raise your own sons as you would wish, and allow me to do the same with mine.

Even this line, brutal as it is, seems to resonate with the idea that Jean-Luc chose technology over children; chose reaching toward the future rather than continuing on his family's line through flesh and blood.

PICARD: It's only. There's just one thing I don't understand. You were such a rotten swimmer, Louis. Thinking of you working on the ocean floor.
LOUIS: I suppose we all find ways to confront our greatest fears.

Here again we have a line that echoes Picard's inner turmoil. I think Picard's greatest fear right now is himself, that he is a threat to the Federation that needs to be kept away from space, from everyone really. He is here not to find himself but to escape himself. Not just his pain, but his actual capabilities, his command abilities, his knowledge. All of those were used for killing.

MARIE: Besides, it would be wonderful to have you back home. Given a little time, maybe you and your brother might even get to like one another.
PICARD: Well, I already like his choice in wives.

This is just another reminder at how shockingly long Jean-Luc has stayed away from home. Robert is no spring chicken, and regardless of how illogically young Rene is, even so this line makes it clear that Jean-Luc neither attended the marriage nor has even met Marie until this trip. Can you imagine?

LOUIS: I'm interested to know what you thought about our plans.
PICARD: I've only had a chance to glance at them. I've a few ideas.
LOUIS: Wonderful. We should discuss them with the board of governors. I've set up a meeting.
PICARD: Meeting?
LOUIS: Just a preliminary conversation. Tomorrow morning?
PICARD: Preliminary to what?
LOUIS: They want you. I mentioned your interest in the project, that's all. That's all I had to say. They jumped at the prospect.

Louis' last line is almost certainly intended to chill us with shades of the Borg. They want you. What you thought about our plans. It's like yet another force trying to use Picard's knowledge for its own purposes, to make him an instrument of a larger project and place him as its mouthpiece. Check out the musical cue at this point, it's meant to be chilling, and it is. And notice how innocently Louis looks, how there is no ill will. And yet the Borg didn't really have any ill will either. Locutus genuinely did not understand why anyone would resist the Borg.

And here it is again:

PICARD: I'm tired of fighting with you, Robert.
ROBERT: Tired?
PICARD: That's right.
ROBERT: Yes. Tired of the Enterprise too? The great Captain Picard of Starfleet falls to Earth, ready to plunge into the water with Louis. That isn't the brother that I remember. Still, I suppose it must have seemed like the ideal situation, hmm? Local boy makes good. Returns home after twenty years to a hero's welcome.
PICARD: I'm not a hero.

I'm not a hero. And he really means it, too. This isn't a plea to treat him like an ordinary person. On the contrary, it's a protest that he's much more of a failure than that.

ROBERT: Because I was the elder brother, the responsible one. It was my job to look after you.
PICARD: Look after me? You? You were a bully.
ROBERT: Sometimes. Maybe. Sometimes I even enjoyed bullying you.
PICARD: All right. Try it now.
ROBERT: Did you come back, Jean-Luc? Did you come back because you wanted me to look after you again?
PICARD: Damn you!

We almost get the idea that Jean-Luc came back not to make amends with his brother, but to take revenge him the Borg through him. Robert's last line here is deliciously ironic, since what he really means is that Picard came here to be in the presence of his bully, to fight back, as he couldn't with the Borg. When I was younger I must admit I did see Robert as a misanthropic bully, but viewing the episode now I realize how much he's inspecting Jean-Luc from the moment he arrives. Like his brother, he knows how to size up a situation and confront it, even indirectly. And like his brother, he knows how to be diplomatic even if that means playing the part of the mean older brother if that's what Jean-Luc needs. But in other scenes we see a softer side to Robert, so we know he isn't just a brute. He's handling Jean-Luc in the way that's needed.

MARIE: What in the world? What happened here?
ROBERT: Ah
PICARD: It's entirely my fault, Marie.
ROBERT: Yes, I fell down, then he fell and then
PICARD: We both fell down.
ROBERT: We both fell down.
PICARD: Together.
ROBERT: We both fell down together.
MARIE: Have you two been fighting?
ROBERT: Fighting? No, certainly not.

The script is brilliant is taking these lines and giving space for a director to play them as brotherly comraderies, even while the text itself plays as a direct summation of what Jean-Luc has realized, that what happened with the Borg was him falling down. Not failing as a human, not realizing he was always weak after all, and not becoming a pariah of the species. He just fell down, and got muddy. And in Robert saying they both fell down, there's perhaps a sharing of contrition at past wrongs done, while knowing that humanity has the capacity through a smile and a laugh to redeem even the worst mistakes and failures.

It's easy to allow these moments in the episode to pass by and feel mostly like nostalgic navel gazing, or even ruminating on the next step. But I feel like every scene is a strict treatment on all the various ways in which Picard's ego has been broken. He doesn't even know if he belongs in Starfleet anymore because of what he's done. And I think it's crucial to imagine how you the viewer would feel if you were responsible for killing or nearly killing everyone you care about through your own inadequacy. It must be almost unbearable, and it's good in a way they underplayed this aspect of it and showed us Jean-Luc's thought process through double-layered text rather than scene after scene of tormented living in hell. In this respect I think the episode's subtlety is underrated.

Wow Peter I watched this episode probably 15 times over the years and yet somehow missed so many obvious parallels to BOBW including the "old argument" about technology versus tradition. Even the passing reference to Picard choosing to walk instead of taking the bus.

But ya, I always found it a little ridiculous that even someone like Picard would have missed his own brother's wedding and not even have met his sister in law! Given the age of their son and given that Robert looks about 60 I can only surmise this was a second marriage so that mitigates things a little, but not much.

@Peter G. great analysis!

I do like that Robert fesses up at the end.

PICARD: You were asking for it, you know.
ROBERT: Yes, but you needed it. You have been terribly hard on yourself.
PICARD: You don't know, Robert. You don't know. They took everything I was. They used me to kill and to destroy, and I couldn't stop them. I should have been able to stop them! I tried. I tried so hard, but I wasn't strong enough. I wasn't good enough. I should have been able to stop them. I should! I should!
ROBERT: So, my brother is a human being after all. This is going to be with you a long time, Jean-Luc. A long time. You have to learn to live with it. You have a simple choice now. Live with it below the sea with Louis, or above the clouds with the Enterprise.
PICARD: You know, I think you were right after all. I think I did come back so that you could help me.
ROBERT: You know what? I still don't like you, Jean-Luc.

I read that last line as "I still don't like you, Jean-Luc, but I love you."

Robert gave Picard what he needed, and that's what family is for.

Possibly the second-best TNG episode. To this point in the series, definitely number two, ahead of BoBW2.

Watching it last week for the first time in 33 years, I teared up at the point where Worf and his parents come to terms.

4/4

Like the '47 bottle of wine featured in Family, this episode has aged quite finely. In earlier seasons, the writers would have shoehorned in some alien or ship-related mystery/problem, but not so here. This is absolutely a groundbreaking episode of TNG.

Silly observation: the actor playing Robert could be Maggie Smith's brother! Their facial expressions and mannerisms are eerily similar at times.

@Sung

Ah, you mean Jeremy Kemp. I know him best from his role in Sherlock Holmes' the Speckled Band (the Jeremy Brett version) as Dr Grimesby Roylott. He played a formidable baddie in that! Holmesians will also know him from the Seven Percent Solution

Picard should have taken his family members—or at least his nephew—on a tour of the Enterprise.

This is a 4-star episode because it acts as an emotional coda to Best of Both Worlds. By acknowledging the Borg incident as something Picard must digest, talk about, recover from, it adds gravitas to the event and makes Picard a more interesting character. Imagine how much smaller the show would've been had they skipped ahead to a new story like his assimilation never happened. 30 years ago, pausing the Trek action to focus on "Family" was a bold choice; today we can see it helped frame BOBW as a pivotal event in Trek history.

Much of the episode's success rests on the great cast they assembled

The one thing I'd say about "Family" is I think it has aged better than most TNG episodes. Having watched TNG a number of times, one gains a greater appreciation for the series and in that vein "Family" plays that coda role to BoBW (the series' pinnacle moment) beautifully, to Lorne's point. It's a pretty unique episode in that respect. And so, while on its own I would not put it in the category of excellence (like BoBW, YE etc.), it's a must-watch after BoBW. Quintessential TNG.

Even for 1990, some of the cultural assumptions about gender roles were jarringly outdated, as if it had been made in the 1950s. I realize Robert is supposed to be some kind of uber traditionalist, but come on. His wife was a good catch because she was a good cook, and apparently does ALL the cooking ( rather than "shares in" that task, as Worf previously described 24th century human family life)? They've had "discussions" about getting a replicator to make her job in the household easier, but Robert's word ( a firm no) is what goes? And wouldn't Mrs. Roshenko have had an easier time with rokeg blood pie with a replicator? Where did Worf get the idea of anybody but mom doing the cooking?

And it's not just cooking. Louis' wife is so proud to be married to a "supervisor" that she tells everyone who will listen, and implies he is much higher ranked than he is? Though we never meet the woman, this is the one thing that is mentioned about her, by two different characters, and it's more about him as about her. Doesn't that sound like a plot point from a bygone era?

It's different enough from the TNG universe we usually see that I wonder if it was deliberately written to sound like a blast from the past to viewers. And whether I like that portrayal of the future or not, it does contribute to the sense that "our" characters are visitors a little out of place on a world that was once their home. They are from Earth, but not really of Earth.

Trish,

I think that's a little unfair. We just concluded this episode during our TNG rewatch and found that aspect unremarkable. My feminist partner did not even comment on it. Her perspective, gender equality means just that, and if Marie enjoys cooking why the heck wouldn't she be the one doing it? There's nothing in the episode to imply that's ALL she does.

There's nothing to imply Robert had the final decision on the replicator. We've had discussions like that in our household (alas, not about a replicator) and both of us have a de-facto veto on things we do not like. Is it sexist if I (the male) exercise the veto but not the same when she does the same?

My thought watching the episode, "One day Picard will live here and he'll have a phaser hidden under every piece of furniture like a paranoid NRA member." (snide reference to Picard S01E03)

I think it's a reasonable point that when a character is not the focus (Marie has not much characterization -- Robert gets that), they writers naturally default to a kind of traditionalist script in a way they might not today.

Marie had enough characterization to reveal that she kept up correspondence with Jean-Luc -- someone she had never met -- despite his enstrangement from Robert. That doesn't scream "submissive wife" to me.

I don’t think she’s submissive, just traditional.

"Marie had enough characterization to reveal that she kept up correspondence with Jean-Luc -- someone she had never met -- despite his enstrangement from Robert. That doesn't scream "submissive wife" to me."

If it were written today Marie would naturally be chair of the Astrophysics department of the Sorbonne and would Karate chop Picard's PTSD right out of him (and she'd be black)

But in all seriousness while the aesthetic choice of portraying Marie in a relatively traditional housewife role is pretty indicative of the time in which the episode was written from a scifi / writing standpoint, taking into account as well Robert's characterization as an ardent traditionalist if not Luddite, it's far from implausible that she would choose this type of role.

Sorry, I meant to say she'd *tearfully* karate chop Picard's PTSD. And she'd be non-binary, not merely just black.

I watched this episode two days ago. There's nothing in it whatsoever that implies Marie is a housewife. The assumption seems based on the fact that she's a good cook and Picard's throwaway line about that being why Robert married her.

In my mind, this is projection of the worst sort. Because she happens to enjoy cooking she MUST be a housewife? Strange that assumption was never made about Sisko and hasn't yet been made about Pike. :-)

And if she is a housewife, so what?

The script (https://www.st-minutiae.com/resources/scripts/178.txt) has some lines that I assume were cut for time, including this one:

MARIE: You can't leave yet.
PICARD: I'm sorry. I must.
MARIE: You're not leaving until you clean up this mess... both of you...

As they rise quickly...

ROBERT: What mess?
(off her expression)
Yes, ma'am...

@Tim,

She definitely appeared to be a housewife. (And the modern term is homemaker btw. My brother, for example, is the latter but not the former.).

Sisko liked to cook but obviously was not a homemaker since we saw him at work every day. Not sure why you reference him. We did not see Marie working.

As I remember, Marie
- Never mentioned any work or interests outside the home
- was never asked by Picard, “How is your work going?” which would be the normal question one asks a sister-in-law after a long absence
- To my memory, made no comments about running the vineyard: (health of the grapes, the wine production, “I need to fertilize the south acreage today”.). Nor was she shown working in the vinyard, was she? Yet her husband was.

This was all a deliberate characterization. The writers wanted to depict a traditional family life - that was what Older Brother loved, and it was part of the fraternal conflict: his love of tradition versus Jean-Luc’s showy ambition/adventure. So the husband was shown in the fields growing grapes and the wife was shown in the kitchen making good food and being solely a mom/wife.

The male characters talked of work and ambitions and themselves. As I remember, Marie never said a word about herself - she served, sat silent at the table, received compliments on her cooking, or talked only about her men in a loving/motherly way, and said *absolutely nothing* to indicate she had anything in her life besides husband and child.

So while she never said “Hi! I’m a homemaker!” (That would have been kinda weird) the writers’ implication was clear.

Just like there would be a different implication if Marie arrived in dirty work overalls and exclaimed “Oof, I had a hard day!” , or greeted the men with “I just got home from the Mairie. Now let’s all throw dinner together, shall we?.”

In fiction, it’s “Show don’t tell.” I’m curious, Tim: How would you yourself have depicted a homemaker more clearly?

I love this episode, by the way. Marie’s traditionalism didnt bother me; it suited the plot.

But now that Trish has pointed out the replicator issue: yes that is bizarre and 1950’s that Robert dictates to Marie how he wants her to cook his food!??

A better line for Marie would have been “I got a replicator once, but gave it away after a week. A machine doesn't cook like I can - and I like knowing what farm my food comes from.”

However: This is still one of my favorite episodes. It is the only one that deals with the kind of violation/helplessness all ST crew members seem to suffer every week. They all get constantly abducted, tortured, experimented on, or have their bodies taken over by aliens, etc. But they always bounce back without turning a hair! Picard after “There! Are! Four! Lights!” never even had a bad night’s sleep.

Considering that their home is also a vineyard, this may be the case where domestic and work life are simply not that separate (a family business).

Tara, agreed on your main points that a traditional housewife role was envisioned here (deliberate choice on my part to use the older term that was still common in 1990).

And I guess I'd observe that even today there are households that are run like the one depicted here. Actually quite a lot of them.

And so that raises the question: will it also be so in the 24th century? And I simply don't know.

In the previous episode, we saw a female gunning to replace Riker as first officer on a starship so in fairness to the writers, you can't rightly accuse them at this point in the series as writing every female character as a compliant homemaker whose life revolves around her husband.

But I suppose Marie is. Or alternatively, we didn't hear about her career and other life events because it wasn't relevant to the story. Would it have been a better episode if Marie had mentioned her pHD in Astrophysics and showed her kung fu fighting Tal Shiar agents as we would expect in 2024? I think not, but it is a matter of aesthetic choice really.

All I will say here to conclude is that if there is one episode where depicting the woman in a hyper traditional role makes sense, it's this one.

@ Tara "yes that is bizarre and 1950’s that Robert dictates to Marie how he wants her to cook his food!??"

What bit of the dialogue implies Robert dictated it to her? I read it as I said above, in a shared living situation within a balanced relationship, both parties essentially have veto authority over the shared living spaces.

My partner and I each have a room, mine is a home office, hers is affectionately called the "Zen Room." Those are our spaces to do with as we please. The rest of the house, we don't make changes to without consensus.

Since we're talking cooking appliances, my partner wanted a rice cooker. We're counter space constrained, so I resisted for a long time, but eventually came around and now we have one. Does that previous resistance imply a lack of agency on my partner's part and/or sexism on mine? I don't think it does. I think it's just two people awkwardly trying to find consensus on a space they have chosen to share.

Marie may or may not be a "traditional" homemaker. My point is there isn't enough in the episode to conclude either way. The episode really isn't about her.

@Tim,

Suppose you are the person who does all the laundry - your wife’s and your own - by hand, washing clothes in the sink because you have never had a washing machine. You are offered a free washing machine. Rather than say yes, you find it nexessary to ask your wife her opinion: “Dear, what would you think about me having this labor-saving device in our home, making it easier for me to wash your clothes?”

Your wife grumbles, “Hmph! Newfangled nonsense! I like you to wash my clothes by hand!”

You say, “Okay… we will keep discussing it.”

I say: Your wife is insanely controlling and selfish, and you are submissive and controlled. It’s a labor-saving device, and you are the person doing the labor, so your wife has no business grumbling or even voting.

Wait: Are you saying that you think Robert actually does a lot of the cooking?

If that were true, why did the writers paint us a picture of the family as they did: Robert in the fields showing love and devotion for his grapes, then Marie in the kitchen saying extremely homemaker-esque things and being praised for her cooking? What was the point of those scenes, if not to paint us a picture of their family life?

The writers showed us what they showed us, so that we, the audience - not being idiots - could draw inferences. Just like we are meant to draw the inference that Rene is Marie’s child with Robert and they all live in the house together, and the vineyard is a Picard family property, and the town is close-knit and slow-paced, etc. Writers drop clues; audiences are supposed to draw conclusions. We are not supposed to say, “Well anything is possible - Rene *could be* a confused neighbor kid and Marie *could* have a jet-setting job as mayor of Paris and Robert *could* be wandering in a stranger’s vineyard. Unless a thing is spelled out in black and white exposition, I refuse to believe it.”

The writers did a fine job of painting a traditional family in which the man tends the grapes and the woman tends the kitchen.

Ergo: it is entirely her business to decide yes or no on a food replicator, and entirely his business to decide on farm equipment.

Would you expect Robert to say, “We’ve been talking about an automated grape-picker to make my life easier - but (glances at wife) Marie hasn't decided yet if she’ll let me stop picking grapes by hand. She wants us to keep discussing it.”

@Tara Robert isn't just some guy and Marie isn't just some woman. He is an ardent traditionalist, the son of an ardent traditionalist, even a Luddite, the man running a traditional vineyard that has been in his family for generations - which from Picard's "I'm proud my family was helping preserve the traditions" comment was a pretty special thing in the 24th century.

So we can also infer that what we are seeing here is not a standard run of the mill 24th century couple but rather something not that unlike an Amish group here in the 20th century.

And by the way, for additional context, Robert and Rene look like they could be in their 50s easily heck maybe even older given 24th century scifi Oil of Olee twice a day. And Rene is what, 10? Meaning Marie had him in her 40s and probably married this guy in her 30s.

And yes, she chose to marry the guy, presumably knowing who she was marrying and what that entailed. You marry into an Amish community you don't bring in a Kenmore washer dryer no matter how much laundry you do.

Bottom line while I agree we are meant to infer certain things about the relationship, you leave out important context here. And whatever else Marie is supposed to be I don't think the actress's performance suggests submission and servitude really. That's just not the vibe she presents.

By the way just for my curiosity I Googled Samantha Edgar, the actress who plays Marie and she was born in 1939 and Robert is played by Jeremy Kemp who was born in 1935. So they would have been in their 50s when this was filmed - right in line with my memory of the characters.

If Marie is supposed to be some completely subservient eyes downcast wife to Robert they wouldn't have picked such an old actress especially back in 1990. Judging by the fact that Picard never even met the woman despite having last been on Earth 20 years before we know for sure this marriage was very recent, meaning Marie chose this guy as her husband very late in life, again supporting my point which is she must have known exactly what she was marrying into.

All of which is to say of course she needed his consent to put a replicator in the kitchen of this guy's family estate, this guy who is on a quest to preserve "the values which we hold dear", values Marie must undoubtedly share to a great extent.

@Jason R,

I never got any vibe that they belonged to a religious order that had a proscription against using tech, or that she swore during wedding vows to be Forever Luddite.

I took it as, they were both traditionalists (I had the impression Marie did love and value cooking by hand, which is why she had been doing it for decades and excelled at it) and both of them liked keeping old ways alive. But my point stands. It was her kitchen, her time, and her labor, so if she someday wanted to bring in a replicator (which I assumed was meant to augment/help her cooking by hand, not replace it entirely), it was her decision to do so. Just as he was entitled to automate the vineyard work if he someday wanted to.

I happen to have quirky anti-tech relatives too - but even so, I cannot imagine my nature-boy brother telling his wife “I hate cell phones so you can’t have one either, unless we discuss it for years and I come around to giving you permission”. Or my five-course-meal Italian dad telling my mom, “No! No microwave is allowed in my home! Get rid of it! I make those decisions, not you.”

"I never got any vibe that they belonged to a religious order that had a proscription against using tech, or that she swore during wedding vows to be Forever Luddite."

@Tara the Amish were just an example. I wasn't suggesting Robert belonged to a religious commune. But the point stands that not replicating food and cooking from scratch, like tending vines by hand, was part and parcel of Robert's family legacy and lifestyle and it was extremely important to him as it was to his father before him.

Marie Married into this family, chose to live in this family vineyard with that legacy.

The laundry example you used doesn't do the situation justice because laundry is more of a chore, whereas cooking is for many people a passion as we can infer it was for both Marie and Robert. Including in the eating, not just the preparation. Remember Picard's line that leaves it to Robert to marry the best cook in France. Her cooking from scratch, and by extension, her devotion to Robert's traditional values, wasn't just some incidental thing in their relationship.

So it makes perfect sense in this context that she wouldn't feel free to start dishing out replicated dinners, even if it was just a small thing here or there. Robert would see that as a slippery slope and as a betrayal, just like with the "old argument" with Picard.

Again, she chose to marry this guy. She gets wine every night from vines he grew by hand and stomped with his own feet and he gets home cooked non replicated meals just like Momma Picard used to prepare before she went loony tunes.

We can agree to disagree. I am most bothered by your stance that “she married into this family so she must forever obey her husband’s no-tech rules.”

In marriage (which hopefully lasts decades), both parties grow and change and have changing wants. There has to be room for that, and respect for that; otherwise one person is chained in place by the other.

Are you saying that if Marie ever in her adult life wants to work outside the home, she has no right to do that - because “she knew when she married Robert that he wanted her in the kitchen for life, cooking elaborate meals”? That is a corollary of your stance. Her style of hands-on cooking takes hours and keeps her from pursuing outside work, art, travel, etc.

(This is indeed what many women in traditional marriages run into when they want to step outside the home - “I married a housewife; your job is to keep cooking the meals I want” - but it is obviously a symptom of a male-led family in which the wife’s desires and personal happiness are subordinated to the husband’s. )

It doesn't have to be a male/female issue. If two Catholics marry, and one later loses interest in the church, is he obligated to keep praying and going to Mass for a lifetime, because they agreed when they married that they’d be churchy together? I say no. People have to have room to change. Spouses have to respect that change happens. And everyone does change, unless they’re in a stasis chamber. Robert *himself* doesnt have to change - but he shouldn’t micromanage his wife to prevent her from doing so.

If he doesnt personally want to eat replicated food, he has various choices (dine out, learn to cook, eat bread and cheese on the days she doesn’t want to cook by hand, etc) rather than demanding his wife spend half the day in the kitchen for their entire married life, no matter what new interests or obligations or opportunities or preferences she develops.

He also has the right to give up the vineyard if he stops wanting to spend all day tending grapes. Do you really think she has the right to overrule his desire to quit?“You knew when we married that I wanted you in the fields making wine for me. So you have no right to ever do anything else.”

I hope any relationship you have contains room for you and your partner to each change as years go by, and neither of you pulls a Robert on the other.

@ Tara

As others said, I don't think you can equate laundry and cooking, but I'll bite anyway. A washing machine has a pretty significant footprint, in terms of the space it consumes, so I do think it would perfectly reasonable for either party to the relationship to reject the addition of one to the household.

I've rejected a few things my partner would add (nothing as grandiose as a washing machine; we do have one of those, lol) because I'm a proponent of free/open space and feel crowded if there's too much "stuff" in my living space.

Someone else equated it to a cell phone, which is silly, a cell phone can live in your pocket. A replicator is presumably at least as big as a modern day microwave (they show a portable one in The Survivors and if memory serves it's a bit bigger), definitely a significant enough appliance that it's going to alter the chi of a home, and that's pretty much the dividing line in our household between individual vs. shared decisions. I don't care if my partner adds a new book to the bookshelf. I do care if I come home and there's suddenly three new bookshelves in the living room.

If we want to keep going down this rabbit hole, there are plenty of characters throughout the history of Trek that have commented on non-replicated food being better. Eddington's diatribes in his final episode come to mind. O'Brien commented on his Mom's preference for home cooked food -- including real meat -- in "The Wounded". Neither of those characters were tech luddites.

Tim,

If your partner recoils when you whip out your cell phone, I guarantee it’s not because of the size, but because of how you use it.

Tara,

You're either missing the point or choosing not to engage with it. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

My partner's possession of a cell phone does not directly impact me. How she uses it might but the mere possession thereof does not impact me one iota.

Her possession of a large bulky microwave, which consumes 1/4 of our available counter space, that 100% would impact me and I'd have a right to weigh in on that.

We don't own a microwave for precisely that reason, lack of available space, and when we did own one in a previous house we rarely used it.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

"Are you saying that if Marie ever in her adult life wants to work outside the home, she has no right to do that - because “she knew when she married Robert that he wanted her in the kitchen for life, cooking elaborate meals”? That is a corollary of your stance. Her style of hands-on cooking takes hours and keeps her from pursuing outside work, art, travel, etc."

A marriage is a give and take. People change. If Marie decides one day that she wants to buy a replicator and get a job as a warp field specialist and go live in a techno penthouse condo she is free to do that - recognizing that Robert isn't likely to follow and the marriage is probably over.

Accordingly, depending on how strongly she feels about getting a replicator, she may or may not consider Robert's stance a "deal breaker" or not.

Bottom line there is nothing we are shown to lead us to believe that Marie feels strongly about the no replicator stance either way. If you are suggesting that this concession on her part makes her Robert's slave, we'll agree to disagree.

Tim,

i was joking about the eternal issue of Does Size Matter. To you, it does.

I would say it is you who is missing the point - maybe because you don’t know anyone who hates cell phones!

It isn't about the size of a cell phone, or whether it clutters up your house (Robert is not a ‘tiny-house’ or “minimalist decor” fanatic by the way; I dont know why you suddenly bring size and clutter into things!). It is about the fact that cell phone haters *hate* seeing the spouse, kids, friends, strangers, and the world at large stare at a screen - instead of conversing, reading, smelling the roses, making eye contact, chatting with the guy in the adjoining bus seat “like back in the old days.” Cell phone haters (like my brother) absolutely believe that having a wife/kids who stare at packet-sized screens *does* impact family life …. and civilization at large.

Cell phone hatred is about the closest thing to Robert’s “technology is ruining society” that I know of. And it is a legitimate hatred.

What’s not legit is expecting the spouse who said “Yeah, I don’t like cell phones either” during courtship, to forego them forever.

Jason R:

Strawman fallacy extraordinaire.

To make your point, you had to imagine Marie becoming a warp core engineer who moves to a techno penthouse?

Nope, she’s the family cook who thinks a replicator would make her own life better.

Tara,

I happen to agree with your brother on most of those points, so there's that, lol.

"she’s the family cook who thinks a replicator would make her own life better"

She never actually said that. All she said is they had "more than a few" conversations about getting a replicator. Everything else is assumptions and projection of our own modern day ideals/societal debates onto her and Robert.

@Jason R. "Bottom line there is nothing we are shown to lead us to believe that Marie feels strongly about the no replicator stance either way."

That's it exactly. It's two or three lines of filler dialogue, the point of which is to contrast Robert and Jean-Luc's view of the world, not to imply that Marie and Robert have fought pitched battles over a replicator and he ran roughshod over her desire to own one.

"Strawman fallacy extraordinaire.

To make your point, you had to imagine Marie becoming a warp core engineer who moves to a techno penthouse?

Nope, she’s the family cook who thinks a replicator would make her own life better."

Ok I think you're being distracted by my choice of metaphor instead of seeing the point being made. I am saying in every marriage we have our deal breakers, things we expect in a partner - including intimate basic things about how they live their lives - that we aren't willing to compromise on.

If a devout Christian marries another devout Christian, belief in God and Church attendance is probably a deal breaker. If one spouse chooses to abandon the church it's probably the end of the marriage.

Kids are another example. If my wife said to me after the wedding "hey by the way I don't want any kids" it would have meant divorce. Me drawing that line, even at what my wife would do or not do with her body, was absolutely my business and while I wasn't going to imprison her to force her to bear my children, I would absolutely exercise my right to leave the relationship if she broke that basic understanding between us.

Cooking from scratch may not be in the same league as all that in "deal breakers" but heck maybe for a guy like Robert it is. Marie knew what she signed up for.

And just for the record, in case we have forgotten, there is nothing in the episode to suggest to us that the writers expected the audience to see Robert as some sort of paragon or his relationship with Marie an idyllic union. Robert is an asshole. He's like a Luddite who struggles and grumbles even as he realizes he's fighting a hopeless battle, with his own son dreaming of being Captain of a starship and his wife bugging him to bring a replicator home. It was Marie, by the way, who we infer reached out to Picard and invited him home, not Robert. Whatever small power he exerts over Marie over kitchen appliances it is pretty apparent that he's not winning any of the big fights.

So I say again: what is it you wanted from this story? For Marie, the spouse of Picard's older brother to be the main antagonist and not him? To show a more explicitly egalitarian relationship? Why? How does that advance the story? To show Robert as a modern progressive man of the 24th century? That's pretty much the opposite of the point here.

Meh. We have traveled quite far from my original point, which I stand by. It is twofold:

1. The chef who presides over the kitchen and labors a good part of each day in the kitchen gets to choose what kitchen devices he/she wants to put there. The eater/beneficiary of said chef’s labor doesn't get to override chef’s desire to obtain a device for his/her own kitchen.

2. A person who has spent 20 or 30 years repeating a certain well-loved traditional routine (in Marie’s case: get up early, gather eggs, pick herbs, make breakfast, visit the farmers’ market and butcher and baker etc, be in the kitchen making the lunch, then return there for hours more to make the dinner) may very reasonably tire of this routine after a couple decades and want change and free time to do some other things. A spouse - no matter his antitech philosophy - should prioritize a spouse’s happiness over his own luddite-ish desires. Hence, the episode hints that Robert is a bit of an ass, and that Marie subordinates herself to his dictates, in 1950s fashion. Which was Trish’s point. Which, on reflection, I seconded.

This was not likely the writers’ intent. But got written in due to their own default 20th century biases.

Je suis finie.

A curious thing about the episode is how “of our time” it is, in all three plots.

Rural France is coded to look like (Hollywood’s) rural France of today, and the Picard family is uber-traditional.

But it’s not just that. The Rozhenkos, with their accented English and traditional gender roles, immediately struck me (in the 1990s when I first saw this episode) not as Russians but as Russian immigrants. And given their mannerisms, they struck me as, even more particularly, Russian Jews - which pegged them as former refuseniks who had come to the US during the Glasnostj epoch.

Meanwhile, Wesley’s father had a well-scrubbed all-American boy-scout look, and he left Wesley a wholesome patriotic message that suited that persona. And Beverly, as always, played a mom that was very much in the vein of wholesome TV moms of the era: that is, she doted, kvelled, supervised, nagged a bit, and worried a bit.

The plot meanwhile has no sci-fi elements, but strictly adhered to what it said in the title.

So I am asking myself: If I saw this episode - one of my favorites - today for the first time, would I find it dated? Or timeless? I am not sure.

Tara,

I stand by my point, which is you and others are projecting your own modern day biases/sentiments onto an episode that's not about them.

You assume facts not in evidence, namely:

1. Marie does MOST/ALL of the cooking.
2. Robert unilaterally vetoed the addition of a replicator to the household.

There's nothing in the aired episode, behind the scenes, or omitted lines to imply either of those things. *shrug*

It’s not a court of law. It is a piece of fiction. In fiction, writers ‘show don’t tell” - eg they show the man in the field, the woman in the kitchen, the visiting relative praising her cooking, the talk of tradition, the sidelong look or pregnant pause or Mrs Macbeth rubbing at her hands, all for a *reason* - and audience is meant to make inferences about what’s what.

This is actually a more interesting subject than the initial one. Do you generally refuse to make inferences? It seems to me that would make it impossible to understand stuff..

I haven't visited the site in a while, and am intrigued by the impassioned, sometimes even heated, discussion I seem to have started. Well done, fellow Trekkers!

I am in agreement with the idea that in fiction, not just science fiction but fiction in general, the audience is SUPPOSED to make inferences. If we don't, we are not doing OUR job in making fiction "work," and we are making the creator's work ineffective. Something strikes me as incredibly defensive about saying, "We don't know that! We're not seeing every single moment of the character's life, so you need to stop saying anything about it!" Of course the writer, even of a movie-length work, cannot show us every single moment, and if they tried, it would make for a long, dull show in which the audience would come to feel insulted for not being trusted to figure a few things out without being hit over the head with them again and again. When we draw conclusions about a character's way of life based on the small amount of data a writer gave us, we are not being mean or prejudiced the way we might be if we jumped to such conclusions about a real-life person we barely knew. Marie does not need to be defended from our inferences. She's there precisely FOR us to make inferences.

I think actually this episode is very effectively and economically written, getting across the essence of characters who have relatively few lines and little screen time, and using that essence to say something about the character who really matters, Picard.

Picard has been through a brutal experience that has made him consider, perhaps for the first time since he entered the Academy, leaving Starfleet and building a life on the planet of his birth. To show us the starkness of the choice he faces, we are shown a bit of Earth seemingly unchanged by the passage of years to such an extent that he half-expects to see his boyhood self come running out the front door. Robert's traditionalism doesn't really exist, because Robert doesn't exist. It was created by the writer as a way of giving Picard a look at his past, preserved as if in amber. He needs to find something attractive about it for us to feel the poignance of his realization that it is not his home, and perhaps never really was, and probably is not little Rene's. For Robert's traditionalism to permeate the house where Picard grew up, Marie has to accept that traditionalism to a great extent, too, but it would serve no purpose for her to be every bit as traditional as Robert. She needs to push back, but just a little, tiny bit, just enough to show us that Robert isn't simply too lazy to overcome inertia. His living in the past is absolutely intentional, and he is working hard to keep things as they are.

But even though I see what the writer is doing and I respect that it has been very skillfully done, I still find it the extent of the traditionalism jarring in a way that somewhat takes me out of the story. I do not think it reflects the culture of the time when the episode was created. Robert is a throwback even by 1990 standards. (I was a young adult by then, so I do remember.) So is Marie. By 1990, the term "homemaker" had already replaced "housewife," and they already made up fewer than half of adult women in the United States, barely more than they did in the last complete year as of this writing (2023). And of course, 1990s homemakers were very well acquainted with "modern conveniences," and generally approved of them (Amish excepted). Their relationship with their husbands was looking less and less like that of Marie's with Robert, and more like a partnership between equals with different roles. Most people I knew considered this a positive development that they hoped to see continue.

Marie is portrayed as living a life in the future that, when the episode was written, was already receding into the past.

@Trish,

Beautifully said: “he needs to find something attractive about it so that we can feel the poignancy” of Picard (and us) realizing that despite its charms, it isn’t home, and he won’t be staying. The village is, I think, intentionally made to look like as perfect as a fairy tale (or a Twilight Zone episode): Picard steps back in time to the semi-magical village of Never-Was, conjured from his trauma and nostalgia.

Regarding inferences: yes, we agree. Though it is entertaining to imagine the deleted scenes that our devious writers might be hiding from us!

For example, the day after Picard left the vineyard for the Enterprise, here is what actually happened:

***

Marie had her floured hands in the dough, kneading it, turning it. She was using the old wooden kneading board that great-grandmother Picard had carved by hand. It had been in this kitchen for a hundred years. Every Friday evening Marie oiled it with care, and all weekend she let it rest, and every Monday morning she kneaded the dough. This had been her routine for twenty years of marriage, except for the times - and there had been only a few - when she had been away.

“Hello, Robert”, she said without looking up. He had entered quietly, but the creak of the old oak floorboards had given him away.

For a moment she heard only silence. Then Robert said, “You’re leaving me.”

“Yes”.

“When?”

“Tonight.”

“And this time… “. His voice rasped. “This time, I think, you won’t be coming back.”

“I’m afraid not.” She turned to face him. She had been dreading this moment. But she had not expected it to go like this. “How did you know?”

“Twenty years ago, the first time we stood in this kitchen together, I asked if you could ever imagine wanting to install a replicator here. Remember what you answered?”

She nodded. “ ‘Over my dead body’ “.

Robert chuckled drily. “Yes. Over your dead body. And six days ago, you got one of your mysterious phone calls from that odious woman - Isabelle, is that what she calls herself? And three days ago, just before the arrival of my brother, you said to me, “Let’s get a replicator, Robert. It’s time, Robert.””. A bitter smile touched his lips. “My dear wife is so thoughtful. She’ll leave me - but she does not want me to starve in her absence.”

“Robert. I never lied to you. You have always known that this day might come.”

“Haven’t we been happy?” he demanded. “Haven’t we?”

“My God, Robert. Yes. We have, and I have. Very happy. Never doubt that.”

They embraced then - fiercely, angrily, clinging to each other. He pressed a hard kiss against her forehead. In a low voice, he muttered, “Where are they sending you?”

She glanced toward the window. The fields stood empty; only the lonely vines were there, row upon row, as they had stood for generations. There was no one to over hear. Even so, she spoke the next word in a whisper. “Romulus.”

“Modern progress,” he spat. “So this is what it looks like: Intrigue across the galaxies. Spying. Assassinations. Damn your Federation; that’s what I say. Damn your Starfleet. Damn the warp drive that will take my wife away tonight; will take our child’s mother away forever.”

Roughly, he pushed her away. “You know the real reason I don’t want a replicator?” he snarled. “It’s not because I like my food homemade and like our kitchen traditional. It’s because I don’t want to think of your dead body every time I use it.”

***

Marie is secretly a Federation assassin. But the writers of “Family” did not want us - or JL Picard - to find out about it.

An interesting bit of fanfic!

Let me add another scene to it:

SPOILERS AHEAD:

***
“T’Hana.” Spock’s lips pressed together for an instant before he repeated the name (a common one among Romulan women of a certain age), his voice not exactly louder, but with a touch more gravel in it. “T’Hana.”

The woman jumped, startled at the repetition. It took all her considerable self-discipline to keep her gaze upon the communications chip between her fingertips while she composed an innocent reply. She could not, after all, let slip to Spock that for a moment, she had thought her name was still “Marie,” as it had been for twenty years, could not admit that she had called herself T’Hana little longer than he thought he’d known her as a member of Romulus' underground unification movement.

“I was preoccupied,” she told him. She had to force a hint of casualness into the eyes she at last raised to his, though the sadness that shadowed them needed no forcing. “A family argument over dinner,” she finished simply.

Spock moved not a muscle except the one that lifted his left eyebrow. “‘When about to be caught in a great lie, allow yourself to be caught instead in a small one,’” he quoted from a manual he had studied a lifetime ago.

'Be careful, the woman reminded herself. Spock is no stranger to the ways of espionage.' She raised the comm chip without showing him its contents. “There has been a death in my family,” she acknowledged, then added less truthfully, “An accident. A terrible accident.”

She did not tell him that the news had reached her all the way from Earth, nor share her suspicion that the ruling of a replicator malfunction was cover for an assassination by arson. She shoved aside an upsurge of guilt. 'They would have eliminated Robert even if I had never told him my real identity,' she told herself, but could not bring herself to forgive René’s murder just because he, too, happened to be home.
***

@Tara

Forgot to tag you in my post above.

Thank you for the epilogue, Trish.

That would certainly add a needed element of intrigue to Star Trek: Generations.

@Chrome

For nearly 30 years now, I have been in the habit when I watch Generations of fast forwarding past Picard's conversation with Troi in which Picard relates the bad news. One of my sisters and I watched the DVD a few days after our mother's death (by natural causes, but still unexpected), and we did not wish to dwell on the sadness of the loss of family. To this day, I have no wish to see the scene.

Nice characterization in this one. I do want to say i'm not sure the point of the episode is all of France is still in the 20th century, I think it was a decision to attempt to draw the distinction between the extreme difference between the Picard brothers. One desperately holding on to what was familiar, what he considers a simpler way of life. The other an explorer, who has embraced societal advancement. What makes this even more interesting is it ends up being Robert, stuck in the past, who ends up helping Jean-Luc look forward, to begin his journey past the Borg incident. I agree with the 3 star rating for this episode.

One of my favourite episodes too - you can watch this just as a fan of Patrick Stewart. Great chemistry with Jeremy Kemp, you can really believe these are two brothers with decades old resentments. I think sibling relationships gove some of the most compelling dramas as no other relationships have lifelong history between people who experienced roughly the same thing growing up. Reminds me a little of the sibling relationship in my favourite show Better Call Saul, where the older brother Chuck has been carrying around feelings of jealously for his brother since adolescence and the ways that has many knock on effects.

I'm with Jammer here. Good episode, not great. Definitely entertaining. 3 stars